- Life is what you negotiate. It’s cute to think you get what you deserve but more often than not, life will give you what you ask out of it.
- No matter what people will have you believe, the presence of emotion is not the absence of logic. Never be ashamed of being a person that feels.
- Life is long. You live long enough to see heroes become villains and villains turn into heroes.
- Your family loves you. No matter how many times they ignore your saying “It’s in the fridge doesn’t mean you can help yourself”
- The tension between security and adventure is a paradox to manage, not a problem to solve. You can’t choose between inhaling and exhaling – you have to do both.
- Don’t “bro” who you should “sir.” Give honorable people the honor they deserve
- Learn the difference between lifelong friendships and situationships. And when you find a tribe worth holding on to, hold on to them with every ounce of your life.
- Preparation is half the job. This is true for everything from interviews to leading pitches and presentations and all the way through to your personal life
- Success does not inoculate you from struggles. There will be many times when confidence will look like tapping into past victories to unlock future ones
- Travel as often as you can, the more of the world you can see, the more perspective you will gain
- Your parents are people, just like you. The sooner you accept that they are not infallible and they simply try their best, despite their imperfections, the more rich your relationship with them will become.
- Your personality is not set in stone. Life is dynamic and so are you. You will find that you are different people in different relationships (romantic or otherwise) – and that’s okay
- Give people the chance to say yes to you. Apply for that job, slide into that DM, carpe that diem.
- There’s a subset of smart people who think that being kind is unnecessary, or tedious, or for the weak. That’s extremely unfortunate. Intelligence gets enriched by kindness. Kindness makes you curious and open-minded, and can actually make you smarter in an organic, hard-to-measure way by helping you connect with people at a deeper level.
- Done is better than perfect. I’ve always been a little obsessed with perfection. And when I say a little, I mean a lot! But when I began to recognise that you can’t perfect work that lives in your head. It’s better to finish something than to always strive for perfection.
- When tragedy strikes someone you know in a way you’ve never dealt with before, it’s okay to say that you don’t know what to say. Sometimes just saying “I’m so so sorry” is enough.
- First impressions are not everything. You discover a person’s layers with time. Are they honest, self-aware, and slyly funny at the moments you least expect it? Do they show up for you when you need them? Do they still love you after they’ve seen you broken?
- Learn how to fight fair with the ones you love. There are no awards for winning the most fights in your relationship. There’s only brokenness and separation.
- As you grow older, you’ll realize that a person is only as good as their word. Be the person who says “let me call you back” and actually does. Let the people in your life know that you’re a person who speaks from a place of conviction, or not at all.
- You are what you say no to more than what you say yes to. Saying “no” to someone or something is sometimes saying “yes” to yourself – to your beliefs, morals, and values.
- Don’t be one of those miserable people who enjoy being wrong and strong. Being right feels good but when your actions hurt people, there’s strength in stepping out of yourself and offering a genuine “I’m sorry” – not an offhanded “I apologize” or a dismissive “don’t be angry” – even if all it does is make the other person feel a little better
- There’s always someone coming behind you. Have mentors and be a mentor.
- If you’re anything like me, your friends may be the biggest influences in your life. Friendships have helped me stay out of trouble, make smart career decisions, rekindle my relationship with God, tap into investment opportunities and be a more honorable person. Choose your friends wisely.
- Keep funds aside for a rainy day.
- Don’t pluck out your eyebrows without first looking up how to pluck out an eyebrow. This is very specific advice to my 23-year-old self, whose mistakes took 3 years to grow out, as well as a general piece of life advice. It’s strength to recognise others doing something well, and look up to them.
- Shout about yourself. Women are very often socialized to keep our achievements to ourselves. It’s helpful to remember that if you don’t self promote, no one else will, but it’s maybe even more helpful to remember that you’re more than deserving of the attention your work generates.
- Conventional wisdom teaches us that what we think of ourselves is more important than what others think of us, but sometimes, especially in dark seasons, our loved ones see us more fully than we see ourselves. It’s okay to trust them enough to allow what they think of you to become your reality.
- It’s cool to not be cool. Growing up, everyone was obsessed with being cool, looking cool and so many ended up being miserable as a byproduct of their own coolness. Search your heart for what truly matters to you and drop everything else. Be the person who zigs when the rest of the world is zagging.
- It’s really satisfying to prove people wrong — but it’s even greater to prove them right. What I mean is, it’s great to do what others say you can’t but even better when you aren’t surprising those supportive people around you that always believed you could.
- Above everything you will ever achieve. Your relationship with God will be the most meaningful relationship you will ever have.
Wow! Your writing is magnificent my darling coz, reading from you always makes my day. It’s 10:56am and reading this has put me in such a great mood.
Well done coz????????????
PS: i’ve got you bookmarked so I can come here and look for new writings everytime.
Lovely tips♥️
Such an edifying read. Thank you, Terver! Welcome to the 3rd floor.
I couldn’t agree more????
Amazing as always.
Thanks for sharing.